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The hidden half of domestic violence

How to have eternal life

The Value of a man,...or a Woman

Over the last few days, I have been getting IM's and even phone calls
regarding some issues in Shattered Men. Since the start of this
ministry, I have talked to men who thought men were all evil and I
have talked to women who felt the same about women. You see, it
seems satan will tell each of us the lie we will most likely

I have also talked to men who because the Bible states that women are
to be in subjection to her own husband, that they are inferior to all
men and that every man is their boss simply because of their gender.
I have seen women that have agreed with this view. The big question
is not what they thought, or what you or I think. The big question
is what does GOD say. What is the value of a man or a woman in HIS

Genesis 1
26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness:
and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the
fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and
over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created
he him; male and female created he them.

Umm I notice that God gave dominion over the earth to....THEM. Seems
both have value in HIS eyes. Male and female created he them and
folks...GOD don't make junk so BOTH are precious in HIS sight.

The Value of a man AND a woman. We need to notice a few other
things too. Often when the Bible says "man" it is referring to both
male and female.

Every man and every woman born of Adams's race has been born with a
death sentence over them. There has only been ONE person throughout
all time that was SINLESS...and that was Jesus.

I have seen feminist brag about the moral superiority of women by
saying sin is passed on by the fathers. Although this is true, it
not give anyone "moral superiority" We need to remember that in
order to be fully HUMAN, Jesus had to have a human parent. In order
to be fully GOD...HE had to have a parent who was GOD. This is why
Mary gave birth to He was born human and why GOD was HIS He would be fully GOD too. Jesus also willingly set aside
HIS deity while on earth to live as a human. (Philippians 2:5-8)

Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and
desperately wicked: who can know it?

Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some
men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing
that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

Even Mary, the mother of Jesus had to find salvation at the foot of
the cross. She had to trust Jesus for full payment for her sin
too...and yes she did sin. Remember...we are told ALL humans have
sinned except Jesus Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:21..For He has made Him
(Jesus) who knew no sin to be sin for us that we might be made the
righteousness of God in Him)

Although sin is passed on by the fathers, I know a lot of woman who
teach others how to sin. If you doubt this, just ask a woman to go to
almost any women's shelter and ask them how they can get a divorce
and make sure they keep the kids. Most will tell them how to lie and
deceive her husband, the police and the courts. I know this for a
fact because I have had many women tell me this is what they have
been told to do. I also have seen evidence of it much of the
research I have done.

Titus 2
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh
holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of
good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their
husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their
own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Wow, I was reading this to one of my adapted daughters and that just
hit me…that they may teach…Ladies…loving your kids or husband does
not always come naturally. Often it has to be…taught.

I have had a man tell us that although he informed his pastor that
his wife was the one beating him, the pastor made his wife a Sunday
School teacher to teach other women how to be Godly wives so we know
many women do not do what Titus tells them to do, however, this
being said men...we need to check this out. In Deuteronomy, the
fathers and grandfathers were given the task to teach the children
about GOD. Too often we have failed to do that in our homes. We have
allowed our wives to do it or we have just not done it and we then
wonder why our kids turn against God when they are older. Please
read Deuteronomy chapter 11 for both a curse and a
promise...depending on if we do what we have been instructed to do.

We know women can teach evil ways. I have seen reports of how women
teach their daughters how to control men, how to deceive them but I
have also seen men teach their sons how to "use women" Many have
taught their sons how to seduce women or at the very least, to teach
them how to look lustfully at them. This brings me to another issue
also. One reason men need to keep their hands off women that are not
their wife is because women are turned on by touch. So guys…do not
give that seductive massage even if some woman tells you it feels
good. Women, men are excited by do not go around half
naked in front of men that are not your husband. To put it
bluntly...resist the temptation to be able to say the 23rd Psalms "my
cup runneth over" unless that man is your own husband. Folks...and
this goes for both men and women, we need to dress so that we do not
bring undue attention to areas that will cause others to fall. If
we are a stumbling block to others it is SIN.

The question then becomes...which gender has failed at the job that
God has ordained them to have? The answer is...BOTH!

The question then becomes which gender needs a savior the most...of
course the answer is...BOTH!!!

Which gender has more worth to GOD? Both and neither. We are ALL
precious in HIS eyes. Remember that in 2 Peter above, we are told
that GOD is not willing that any should perish. This means NO ONE.
Man woman, boy or girl.

Both genders are also capable of doing great things for our LORD.
Yes we have the Moses, Noah's, Daniel's David's and others but we
also have our Ruth's, Miriam's, Mary's and Sahara's also.

One of the most beautiful acts of worship shown to our LORD was done
by a woman. This was coupled by yet another woman being
busy "serving"
the LORD...but also being too busy to really LOVE HIM.

You see my friend, if we are simply working for the LORD, we often do
not take time to see what HE wants us to do. Mary took time to see
what JESUS needed. (John 12:1-7) Mary washed HIS feet with her
tears. She then dried them with her hair. Yet we so often go through
life taking it for granted that He died for us. Oh yea, once in a
while we go see things like the Passion of the Christ which may
drive it home for a few days...then we are right back to where we
were. Oh GOD help us to understand fully the Gift YOU have given
each of us. Help us never to take Your precious Blood for just count on Your love and forgiveness as a license to that Grace can abound more. Help us to be more like Mary…
Help us to really fall in LOVE with YOU!

I can almost imagine Mary sitting at HIS feet, with tears flowing…
singing this song as she worships Jesus Christ.

I worship You oh Mighty God
There is none like You
I worship You Oh Prince of Peace
That is what I want to do

I give You Praise for You are my righteousness

I worship You oh Mighty God
There is none like You

I worship You oh Mighty God
There is none like You
I worship You Oh Prince of Peace
That is what I want to do

I give You Praise for You are my righteousness

I worship You oh Mighty God
There is none like You
There is none like You

Or perhaps…

I Love You LORD and I lift my voice to worship YOU
Oh My soul Rejoice
Take Joy my KING in what You hear
May it be a sweet sweet sound in Your ear

My friend, are you reading this trying to figure out what in the
world are we talking about? You may be asking who is this Jesus we
keep talking about. Or you may have been terribly hurt by religion
in the past and because of the abuse, and the injustice, you may
feel there is no God. These are good questions my friend. I do
want to reassure you that there IS a God who cares and loves YOU so
much. He has given YOU the choice to believe in Him…or NOT.
However, just as YOU have the choice to do things that are good, God
has given others that choice also and many of them have chosen to do
evil…maybe even to abuse YOU. Just as much as you hated that, God
hated it even more. He could not stop them and still have given
them free will any more then HE can force you to believe HE is and
that HE loves YOU so much. One of the greatest burdens I have ever
had in this ministry is how to convey to YOU how much GOD really
loves YOU. How do I tell YOU that HE can heal those wounds? He can
take that shattered broken person and make YOU whole. How can I tell
you that YOU are are not that worthless creature you have been told
so often that you are that you even believe it yourself...that YOU
have WORTH...that YOU have value and that JESUS knows all about you
and HE wants you to come to HIM...JUST as you are right now.

To be honest...I cannot. NO ONE can. It is like telling a person
that was born blind what a sunset looks like or a deaf person what
it is like to hear their child say "I love you" Believe me my
friend, if there was anything I could do to convey this to you…I
would. It is something that HAS to be experienced to know. I can
tell you that you can experience it right now…in the next few
moments and I promise you that it will change your life for the

If this last paragraph applies to you? PLEASE read this….PLEASE!

We can not have a good relationship with any other person until we
have a good relationship with GOD first. Many people know ABOUT God
but to have a relationship with Him, we have to KNOW Him. What is
the difference?

Knowing about God can include us being aware of all the facts
concerning Him. Many people think that knowing that Jesus Christ
died for our sin is all that is needed for salvation. It is NOT! In
order to have salvation that is to have eternal life there are a few
basic steps we need to follow. This is so important I want to go
over them,

1: We need to realize we have sinned. Romans 3:23 For all have
sinned and come short of the Glory of God This means we have failed
to met the goal of being perfect in order to enter heaven. Few of us
would question this.

2: The penalty for the sin that we are guilty of is death. Romans
6:23 tells us The wages of sin is death. (Death is separation. When
our body dies, our soul is separated from our body. Eternal death is
when we die without doing what is being explained here and then our
spirit is separated from God for eternity.

Since the only price we can pay for our own sin is to be separated
from God forever, it stands to reason that there is no way we can
pay for our sin ourselves. We thus come to the 2nd part of Romans
6:23: but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the

3: 2nd Corinthians 5:21 informs us: For he hath made him, who knew
no sin, to be sin for us, that we might be made the righteousness of
God in him. Jesus Christ, God's only Son became sin for us so that
we can be freed from the penalty of sin. What then do we need to do?

4: For GOD so loved the world that HE gave His only begotten Son
that whosoever (read YOUR name here) believeth in Him should not
perish but have everlasting life. Please note the ONLY condition
given is that we believe in Jesus Christ for full payment for our
5: Many times our own past activities or the activities of our
ancestors may be a basis for demonic problems based on Exodus 20:5.
It is important therefore to Renounce the sins of our ancestors.

Now if we only learn these facts, even though we may understand that
they are true and believe them. that is only knowing ABOUT GOD. How
do we KNOW HIM then? It is APPLYING that payment to our account.
This would be like having a check to pay a bill and putting the
check on a desk. The bill does not get paid because the check was
never APPLIED to your account. Once we know and believe the facts
pointed out above, the next step is to TALK to God much as you and I
would and admit that we have fallen short of what He wants.
We recognize that we deserve to be separated from a Holy God. We
then tell Him that we know that He has provided a payment for all
our sin and this payment was Jesus Christ when He died on a cross.
It is at this time we ask God to APPLY THIS PAYMENT TO OUR ACCOUNT.
We ask God to credit as PAYMENT IN FULL for all our sin the price
Jesus paid for us. It is this step that gives us eternal life. If we
do all but this step, we know about God.

When we do this step, we will KNOW God and we will have eternal
life. Following is a model of a prayer to trust Christ.

Lord God, I now realize I am a sinner. I realize I have fallen
short of the goal You have set forth for eternal life and I now
repent of this sin. I also understand that according to Your Word,
the Bible, that Your Son, Jesus Christ as paid the debt for me and I
am now asking You to credit the payment Jesus made on the cross to
my sin. Lord God, I also renounce any sin on the part of my
ancestors that may have been invitations to curses or demonic
activity. Lord God I also now understand that You have now given
me eternal life and I thank You for that fact. Amen.

If you have prayed this prayer Please send us an e-mail so we can
send you some information to help you grown in Christ. If you do
not have a church home we would also like to try to help you find a
Bible believing and teaching church in your area.

If after reading need to talk to someone
call 1 888 need HIM (1 888 633 3446)

PLEASE note this is only for the purpose of establishing a right
relationship with Jesus Christ. This number is not for immediate

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