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Prayer   Why Not Answered?

Have you ever prayed for something and have not gotten an answer? Perhaps so many have done this that this is the reason many feel that God is dead? Often we do not feel it is one of those "wait" answers as the prayer request has come and gone and it still was not just
was NOT answered. We did not get a NO a YES or even a WAIT. It seems as if our request was IGNORED.

Could it be? Could it be that GOD IGNORED our request? Well YES it could be!

Let us look at prayer in depth.


But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face
from you, that he will not hear. Isaiah 59:2

If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me: Psalms 66:18

Do you have children? Do you like to get them special things? Maybe and ice cream on a hot
day? What if they have been bad? What if they willfully disobeyed you and then asked for an
ice cream? Is it likely they will get it? What if they have been very good... if they cleaned their room without being asked and then did something more then you had asked them to do?
Would you listen to them more when they had a special request?


But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea drive
James 1:6

(you ever have someone that is dear to you ask you for something and act like they know you
are not going to give it to them anyway? How does that make you feel? Does it tend to make
you want to give it to them? Does it hurt you when they do that? Think for a few moments
how the LORD feels when we do this to Him!


OH how often do we overlook this simple requirement. You may even be like me... I felt that God knew what I wanted and needed so why did I have to tell him. I know He has promised
to meet my needs and I have often overlooked asking. This has even carried over to my
children and showed ME that I had a double standard... I have often waited until my kids
ASKED for help before helping them BUT I have told them at times that if they see that I
needed help, why should I ask for help? There is another name for double standards like this ...SIN. I expected others to do things I was not willing to do myself! Do we treat GOD
this way too?

WE ASK AMISS (for the wrong reasons)

Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. James

Often we can ask for very good and worthy things. But why do we ask for them? Could it be
that we want a club started and ask for the Lord to help so that WE can get credit? I have
tried several things "for the Lord" in the past but was it really FOR THE LORD? I tried to get
a Christian Nurses Association going but was it for the Lord? OR for what it would look like
on my resume? Even praying for a loved one's salvation.... is it for THEM or that we feel it will make things easier for Us? MOTIVES are very important.... we can not hide them from God!

And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight. 1 John 3:22

Do not we as parents do more for our children when they do things that please us? If they are constantly disobeying do we give them special treats?


Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7

Honor: honor  which belongs or is shown to one
of the honor  which one has by reason of rank and state of office which he holds

Could not our prayers be hindered if we do not love our wife as Christ has instructed us to?

Men are to be the leaders of the home so if they are not doing that.. prayers can be hindered.

If a wife does not allow her husband to be the leader, could not her prayers be hindered? While men are told to love their wife, women are instructed to submit to their husband. This is what Strong's Concordance states for submit:
from 5259 and 5021; TDNT - 8:39,1156; v

AV - put under 6, be subject unto 6, be subject to 5,
submit (one's) self unto 5, submit (one's) self to 3,
be in subjection unto 2, put in subjection under 1, misc 12; 40

1) to arrange under, to subordinate
2) to subject, put in subjection
3) to subject one's self, obey
4) to submit to one's control
5) to yield to one's admonition or advice
6) to obey, be subject
A Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader". In non-military use,
it was "a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden". Men we can not demand our wife be submissive.... Women, you can not demand that your husband honor you... both have to be earned.. both have to be GIVEN as an act of LOVE.
Men if we are the leaders of our home, should not we start first? Should not we love our wife and honor her? I think her submission will come readily when she sees that we have her interest ahead of our own,

(Read  What Is the Cause of Abuse? and Marriage, His Duties, Her Duties)


The number one reason many do not have their prayers answered is that they are not Christians.. Oh often it seems as if they have prayers answered but is it GOD answering them?
There have been several posts here in Shattered Men that explain what it is and how to have salvation and I am sure there will be many more as time goes by as it is the ONLY thing that really matters Read  First Step for Better Relationships

If your neighbors child comes to you and ask you for a new bike...will he be likely to get it from you? If he asks for $20 to go on a date, will he get it? If YOUR child who as been doing things that please you ask you, will he get it? (assuming you have it give) You see, many do not belong to the Lord, Oh yes they were created by Him, He has already PAID for their sin but they have not accepted the payment yet and as such satan is their father until they ask to be adopted into GOD's family.

There is more to be said on this subject. We will be covering what to pray for when praying for others and some of the hardest praying there is...intercessory prayer.

Until then,, reflect on these things.... I do trust none of them affect you but if your prayers are not being answered, ask God to search you to see if any of these may apply....if so ask the Lord to help you correct the problem and so that your prayers may be answered too.

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