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The hidden half of domestic violence
Prayer Why Not Answered?
Have you
ever prayed for something and have not gotten an answer? Perhaps so many have
done this that this is the reason many feel that God is dead? Often we do not
feel it is one of those "wait" answers as the prayer request has come
and gone and it still was not done...it just
was NOT answered. We did not get a NO a YES or even a WAIT. It seems as if our
request was IGNORED.
Could it be? Could it be that GOD IGNORED our request? Well YES it could be!
Let us look at prayer in depth.
GOD CAN IGNORE PRAYERS:
But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have
hid his face
from you, that he will not hear. Isaiah 59:2
If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me: Psalms 66:18
Do you have children? Do you like to get them special things? Maybe and ice
cream on a hot
day? What if they have been bad? What if they willfully disobeyed you and then
asked for an
ice cream? Is it likely they will get it? What if they have been very good... if
they cleaned their room without being asked and then did something more then you
had asked them to do?
Would you listen to them more when they had a special request?
WE LACK FAITH:
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave
of the sea drive
James 1:6
(you ever have someone that is dear to you ask you for something and act like
they know you
are not going to give it to them anyway? How does that make you feel? Does it
tend to make
you want to give it to them? Does it hurt you when they do that? Think for a few
moments
how the LORD feels when we do this to Him!
WE DO NOT ASK!
OH how often do we overlook this simple requirement. You may even be like me...
I felt that God knew what I wanted and needed so why did I have to tell him. I
know He has promised
to meet my needs and I have often overlooked asking. This has even carried over
to my
children and showed ME that I had a double standard... I have often waited until
my kids
ASKED for help before helping them BUT I have told them at times that if they
see that I
needed help, why should I ask for help? There is another name for double
standards like this ...SIN. I expected others to do things I was not willing to
do myself! Do we treat GOD
this way too?
WE ASK AMISS (for the wrong reasons)
Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your
lusts. James
4:3
Often we can ask for very good and worthy things. But why do we ask for them?
Could it be
that we want a club started and ask for the Lord to help so that WE can get
credit? I have
tried several things "for the Lord" in the past but was it really FOR
THE LORD? I tried to get
a Christian Nurses Association going but was it for the Lord? OR for what it
would look like
on my resume? Even praying for a loved one's salvation.... is it for THEM or
that we feel it will make things easier for Us? MOTIVES are very important....
we can not hide them from God!
WE ARE NOT PLEASING GOD
And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and
do those things that are pleasing in his sight. 1 John 3:22
Do not we as parents do more for our children when they do things that please
us? If they are constantly disobeying do we give them special treats?
WE DO NOT HAVE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR FAMILY:
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour
unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the
grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
Honor: honor which belongs or is shown to one
of the honor which one has by reason of rank and state of office which he
holds
Could not our prayers be hindered if we do not love our wife as Christ has
instructed us to?
Men are to be the leaders of the home so if they are not doing that.. prayers
can be hindered.
If a wife does not allow her husband to be the leader, could not her prayers be
hindered? While men are told to love their wife, women are instructed to submit
to their husband. This is what Strong's Concordance states for submit:
from 5259 and 5021; TDNT - 8:39,1156; v
AV - put under 6, be subject unto 6, be subject to 5,
submit (one's) self unto 5, submit (one's) self to 3,
be in subjection unto 2, put in subjection under 1, misc 12; 40
1) to arrange under, to subordinate
2) to subject, put in subjection
3) to subject one's self, obey
4) to submit to one's control
5) to yield to one's admonition or advice
6) to obey, be subject
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A Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military
fashion under the command of a leader". In non-military use,
it was "a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming
responsibility, and carrying a burden". Men we can not demand our wife be
submissive.... Women, you can not demand that your husband honor you... both
have to be earned.. both have to be GIVEN as an act of LOVE.
Men if we are the leaders of our home, should not we start first? Should not we
love our wife and honor her? I think her submission will come readily when she
sees that we have her interest ahead of our own,
(Read What Is the Cause of Abuse? and
Marriage, His Duties, Her Duties)
WE ARE NOT HIS!
The number one reason many do not have their prayers answered is that they are
not Christians.. Oh often it seems as if they have prayers answered but is it
GOD answering them?
There have been several posts here in Shattered Men that explain what it is and
how to have salvation and I am sure there will be many more as time goes by as
it is the ONLY thing that really matters Read First Step for Better
Relationships
If your neighbors child comes to you and ask you for a new bike...will he be
likely to get it from you? If he asks for $20 to go on a date, will he get it?
If YOUR child who as been doing things that please you ask you, will he get it?
(assuming you have it give) You see, many do not belong to the Lord, Oh yes they
were created by Him, He has already PAID for their sin but they have not
accepted the payment yet and as such satan is their father until they ask to be
adopted into GOD's family.
There is more to be said on this subject. We will be covering what to pray for
when praying for others and some of the hardest praying there is...intercessory
prayer.
Until then,, reflect on these things.... I do trust none of them affect you but
if your prayers are not being answered, ask God to search you to see if any of
these may apply....if so ask the Lord to help you correct the problem and so
that your prayers may be answered too.
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