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The Obituary 

Have you noticed that the older one gets, the more they read the obituaries or the death notices in the local paper?  Some joke that it is to see if their name is in it so they can see if they need to change their plans and not go to work by calling in "dead"  Of course, the longer we live, the more we will see the names of those we knew in this section of the paper. In reality, someday our name will be in it.  

We can learn a lot from reading the obituary.  Let us look at some of the things we can learn.

1:  We can often learn why this person died. I am looking at one entry that tells us: "memorials may be made to the American Heart Association".  This indicates that this person died from heart disease.  

2:  Sometimes we can learn what they valued in life.  If they did not die from a disease, sometimes we are told contributions can be made to some organization they valued. Perhaps Bob Barker's will say: "Donations can be made to your local animal shelter to spay or neuter your pet"  

3:  We can often learn what church they attended when we are told who will be officiating their service or at times that the service will be held in a specific church.  

4: We can often learn where they lived or where they were originally from.

5: We will certainly learn that death does not always wait until old age. I have seen notices stating "stillborn" to well over 100.

In the next few moments, I would like each of us to stop to think about...what IF!  What if there could be truth in the obituary and they went further to tell us even more information, not about where they came from, but where they went to.

What if we read..."John Doe died and went to heaven?  Many of us would then rejoice for John Doe.  We know that God tells us in  Psalm 116:15 "Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints"  

Far more important, what if we read..."John Doe died and went to HELL? 

Look what GOD says about this:  "Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord GOD, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; Ezekiel 33:11a.

What would make the difference?  We know that according to Hebrews 9:27 "And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment"  Let me explain this for a moment. In the Psalms, God treasures the death of a saint.  Oh this does not mean someone that was declared a saint by any human being.  In God's sight, a saint is simply anyone that has trusted that Jesus Christ paid the full payment for their sin and that has asked God to credit this payment to their sin.  In 2 Corinthians 5:21 we are told: "For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him."  This is what makes one a saint.  We are made righteous by the price Jesus paid for us...IF we accept it. This is what will make our death precious in HIS sight because it will mean that we will be with HIM the moment we die. 

Truth in the Obits.  What a concept. I ask would it make a difference in how we go about life?  What if we knew someone we love would end up with that 2nd entry?  We have a very special poem on our website. It is so important that I am posting it at the end of this message. 

Most of the time, we do strongly suggest the LOVE of GOD in Shattered Men.  We do want each of you to know how much God loves you and that HE loves you just as you are.  We have written many messages which you can find on "ken's page" to tell you that HE did not abandon you and that HE wants to heal your shattered hearts  BUT at times we need to tell you the other side of this story too.  After all, Shattered Men does tell about the hidden half of abuse so we need to tell the other side of GOD's love too.  

The OTHER SIDE....Paul told us that the terror of the LORD caused him to persuade men. (2 Corinthians 5:11) This does not imply that Paul simply told someone that Jesus loved them and left it at that. "Persuade" indicates a strong intensity to convince someone of something...almost an argument. It is sort of like we would expect from a used car salesman to sell you a car and maybe even more so.  Could it be that Paul really had a glimpse of what an obit notice saying ..."died and went to hell?" would mean?   

Psalm 7:11 tells us: "God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day.  Some of these wicked are the ones that may have abused you my friend.  They could also be the ones that lived so called perfect wholesome lives, giving to the poor, feeding the hungry, doing all the right things....but one. You see, according to 1 Corinthians 13
it does not matter what we do if we do not have love.  Oh love for our fellow man may be there but often we do things for the wrong motive.  We can never do anything to earn more favor with God, nor can we do anything to cause HIM to hate us.  We will never see an obit that says: "died and went to hell" because God hated them.  God said He is not willing for ANY to perish.  

2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

God has done everything HE can to have our obit read: "died and went to heaven!"  He gave HIS son and abandoned Him when He was nailed to a cross so that we can have life.  The actual result is now...up to each of us...To find out how YOU can make sure YOUR obit will say...."DIED AND WENT TO HEAVEN"  How to have eternal life

If you know that YOUR obit will say this....What will your friends obit say?

My Friend

BY Vera Lynn Edge

One day a girl named Louise fell asleep and dreamed a strange dream. she dreamed that a gal in Hell wrote her a letter and sent it to her by an angel-its a true story - if you can read it without weeping then......

The Letter

My friend I stand in judgment now.
And feel that you are to blame somehow.
On earth, I walked with you day by day,
And you never did point the way.

You knew the Lord in truth and glory.
But never did you tell the story.
My knowledge then was very dim.
You could have led me safe to him.

Though we lived together on earth.
you never told me of the sacred birth,
and now I stand this day condemned, because you failed to mention him.

You taught me many things that's true,
I called you friend and trusted you.
but I learn now that its too late.
you could have kept me from this fate.

We walked by day and talked by night.
And yet you showed me not the light.
you let me live and love and die.

But you knew I would never live on high.
Yet I called you friend in life.
And trusted you through joy and strife.
and yet on coming to the end.
I cannot, now , call you "My Friend".


After Louise awoke from that dream and it was still real in her mind, She contemplated the meaning of the dream. And thought that she had not done all that she could to tell her friends about Jesus. She said to herself that she would make a point to tell her friend Marsha about the dream some time soon!! The next day She called her friend Marsha and this was the conversation "Bill is Marsha there?? "Louise , you don't know yet!!!". "No, Bill what". "MARSHA WAS KILLED LAST NIGHT IN A CAR ACCIDENT"!"  I thought you knew"

What are you doing to tell others of the Love of Christ!!

This was from littleprincess62 on Christians Of the United States and posted as a letter from hell...I have heard it as a song called You Were Once My Friend....It has done much to wake me up to the need to tell others about our Lord....

MY LORD...Give us a burden as never before to tell the lost about YOU!

For the LAMB



Vera Lynn Edge

Original story is located here. please check it out. it is beautiful

My friend, if this message has made you uncomfortable I say.... GREAT.   It is my intention for us all to get out of our comfort zones and tell the Marsha's of this world that JESUS really does love them.

One of the last things done for each of us is often a "tomb stone"  We often read things on these stones that tell us about that person.  Above anything else....I would like this to be on mine.

"He made a difference"

My friend, when it is all said and done, what will they say about YOU?  He who dies with the most toys is still dead.  Those toys will not do any good.  Tell a friend about JESUS...and it will make an eternal difference..... Are YOU making a difference????

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