The hidden half of domestic violence
The High Cost of SIN....The Death of Nicole Dodd
Late one Thursday evening, in an average house in
South Bend Indiana,
a young 14 year old girl named Nicole who would have had her first day in
high school and her 15th birthday a few days later found she had
another appointment. Instead of her 1st day in high school, the
class she had spent so much of her time with, went on a field trip, a
field trip no one wanted. It was to her funeral! Nicole Dodd was
murdered that night when the ties of an apron was used to strangle her
life from her. At this time, we still do not know the full extent of
what went on that night other then the fact that the house was set on
fire to try to cover this crime.
Some time ago, I wrote about the "Hidden Cost of SIN" I have reason
to add to that now. You see, I have personally seen this hidden and
very high cost in the last few days...because Nicole was my nephew's
I had to watch almost helplessly as I saw the agony Nicole's
grandmother was in as she is my sister. I saw it in her son even
though as often men do, they have a "stiff upper lip" and get through
it...but I know the next several weeks will be very hard for David as
the reality of this sinks in.
I saw this hidden and very high cost of sin in dozens of other family
members from brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles. I saw it in dozens
upon dozens of her classmates.
I heard the agony in countless of conversations in the anger that
was expressed. It was a righteous anger for sure....but still, there
will be much work ahead.
I also personally felt this high cost of sin myself as I agonized for
my family, for my sister, for my nephew and many other family
members. I agonized for her class mates as one by one, they went by
her casket to say their last goodbye, often placing a note in with
There are also other people paying the price for this one act. I
think about this man's family. I know they are in agony too but they
may be keeping their agony hidden. Think of the agony you would be
in if you found out your son or daughter willfully took another's
life. Still, it could well be that his parents like many of yours
never showed this man love. They may not even care about what has
happened and that in and of itself would be tragic. I do know
there are at least two people who care about him....JESUS
CHRIST....and me. You may be asking why do I care about this man,
this man who has hurt my family so much and who has taken the life of
my precious grand niece? I care...because I know MY JESUS CARES!
I have said that sin always cost us more then we can afford and it
always cost others then the one doing it. I personal saw the price
literally hundreds of people were paying for the sin of this ONE
person. My friend, YOU here in Shattered Men will also pay a part
of the cost for this one man's sin. You may be asking how. Well,
in talking with several people, I sensed that some may have been
blaming men in general. Because of the actions of one man, it makes
it a little bit harder to get the message that men are abused too
out. This has reinforced to some that only women are victims but
many of you know first hand that this is not so.
In the last couple of days, I have talked to several people to remind
them that our GOD is able to snatch victory out of the jaws of
defeat. HE IS able to turn this tragic event into some major damage
to satan's kingdom. When I told one man this, he contested it and
asked how. I told him I did not know how but did know my LORD. He
then held up a finger and showed a stump where it should have been
and asked, "Tell me how this could have been for my good" I simply
responded that perhaps instead of just your finger, that maybe it
kept you from doing something else that would have taken your arm, or
I also wrote on The Pleasure of SIN
In this, I write about how often we do things for a moments pleasure
that we will often pay for far longer then a few moments. This
man will be paying for a few moments pleasure with over 100 years in
prison, or perhaps with his life. WAS IT WORTH IT?
I do want to write about what I think adds greatly to the reason why
things like these happen but that will be another message for I have
something far more important to discuss right now.
Is the sin you obtain a few moments pleasure from worth it? Oh I
doubt very much if your sin has this high a cost for others around
you but remember also...the SIN of ONE person cost the SON of GOD His
Life. YOUR Sin...MY sin! We each drove the nails into HIS hands.
YOUR Sin...MY sin is why HE died on Calvary.
Nicole recognized that her sin drove the nails into Jesus' hands. She
trusted Christ for eternal life 4 years ago when she was ten. As a
result, she is in the presence of Jehovah right now. Her heart has
been mended, and I am sure she is asking her Jesus to mend the broken
and shattered hearts of so many she left behind. I also firmly
believe that this request extends to "uncle Joe", the man accused of taking
her life that fateful Thursday evening. Even if this person does
trust Christ for salvation, even if every one does forgive him and I
pray that they do because un-forgiveness destroys those who will not
forgive.... but even with all of this it does NOT negate the law of
the harvest. Although he would be forgive should he ask GOD to do so
and to give him eternal life...he will still have to pay for his sin
here on earth. It may well mean spending the rest of his life in
prison, or lying on a stretcher and having a needle inserted into his
The hidden and very high cost of sin! Oh yes, sin does bring
pleasure but it is only for a fleeting moment. Right now, often
there are many people around us that pay for our sin. You may well
be paying for the sin of others. There are dads reading this that
will pay the cost of the misandry this man will cause. There are
many reading this that are paying the cost of another's affair by
having to pay support for a child that is not theirs and that you may
not even be able to see. I have seen the agony when these men tell
me they can not see their children. We can see this high cost in
the murder by suicide of men who have had their kids stolen from
them although they did nothing wrong. Of the murder by suicide of
many of our youth with the constant misandry they see thus causing
them to lose all hope Yes it is murder by suicide because when you
cause someone to feel so hopeless that they do take their own life..
it is.... MURDER! Each of us are paying for someone else's
sin in one way or another.
There is another that has already paid the cost for every sin ever
committed upon the face of the earth. Although we may often pay for
another person's sin even if we do not want to, the payment that
Jesus made was paid willingly but it has to be asked for. We have to request that the
payment Jesus already made for our sin be applied to our account.
This is how!
1: We need to realize we have sinned. Romans 3:23 For all have
sinned and come short of the Glory of God This means we have failed
to met the goal of being perfect in order to enter heaven. Few of us
would question this.
2: The penalty for the sin that we are guilty of is death. Romans
6:23 tells us The wages of sin is death. (Death is separation. When
our body dies, our soul is separated from our body. Eternal death is
when we die without doing what is being explained here and then our
spirit is separated from God for eternity.
Since the only price we can pay for our own sin is to be separated
from God forever, it stands to reason that there is no way we can pay
for our sin ourselves. We thus come to the 2nd part of Romans 6:23:
but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the Lord.
3: 2nd Corinthians 5:21 informs us: For he hath made him, who knew no
sin, to be sin for us, that we might be made the righteousness of God
in him. Jesus Christ, God's only Son became sin for us so that we can
be freed from the penalty of sin. What then do we need to do?
4: For GOD so loved the world that HE gave His only begotten Son that
whosoever (read YOUR name here) believeth in Him should not perish
but have everlasting life. Please note the ONLY condition given is
that we believe in Jesus Christ for full payment for our sin.
5: Many times our own past activities or the activities of our
ancestors may be a basis for demonic problems based on Exodus 20:5.
It is important therefore to Renounce the sins of our ancestors.
Now if we only learn these facts, even though we may understand that
they are true and believe them. that is only knowing ABOUT GOD. How
do we KNOW HIM then? It is APPLYING that payment to our account.
This would be like having a check to pay a bill and putting the check
on a desk. The bill does not get paid because the check was never
APPLIED to your account. Once we know and believe the facts pointed
out above, the next step is to TALK to God much as you and I would
and admit that we have fallen short of what He wants.
We recognize that we deserve to be separated from a Holy God. We then
tell Him that we know that He has provided a payment for all our sin
and this payment was Jesus Christ when He died on a cross.
It is at this time we ask God to APPLY THIS PAYMENT TO OUR ACCOUNT.
We ask God to credit as PAYMENT IN FULL for all our sin the price
Jesus paid for us. It is this step that gives us eternal life. If we
do all but this step, we know about God.
When we do this step, we will KNOW God and we will have eternal
life. Following is a model of a prayer to trust Christ.
Lord God, I now realize I am a sinner. I realize I have fallen
short of the goal You have set forth for eternal life and I now
repent of this sin. I also understand that according to Your Word,
the Bible, that Your Son, Jesus Christ as paid the debt for me and I
am now asking You to credit the payment Jesus made on the cross to my
sin. Lord God, I also renounce any sin on the part of my ancestors
that may have been invitations to curses or demonic activity. Lord
God I also now understand that You have now given me eternal life
and I thank You for that fact. Amen.
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