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Florida

Miami, Florida
7/6/03

Man who petitioned the Justice System for stay away orders on his violent
obsessed estranged wife finds himself in jail after she went to his Business
Office verbally assaulted and threatened him over a mere $20.00

Synopsis of event

State of Florida VS, Selvin Ferril


Case F02037510

What really took place, on April 13th /02 I gave my estranged wife $100.00
towards my then ten year old child support a day after the child called and
asked me for a book bag as the one I bought him previously had broken, I told
him I won't be able to get him the book bag until the end of the week as I just
gave what I had to his Mother, the following day he called and said Daddy I
have $20.00 I asked him where did you get $20.00 from? he replied his Mother
gave it to him.

I said at your age your Mother should not give you $20.00 as you'll take it to
School and spend it all on Candy and other things, he then said can you use
this to get my book bag? I then said good idea bring it when you coming to
School in the Morning and I'll add another $20.00 to it take you to WALMart or
Kmart and let you get the bag with wheels as requested, the child brought the
money but I had forgotten to take it from him after I got him from School so I
asked a friend who was also my landlord to go and get money from child as I
didn't not want him to spend it on the ice cream truck, the child gave the
money to my friend he in turn gave it to me.

On April 17th my estranged wife asked the child for the money he then told her
he gave it to his Dad towards a book bag for him, his mother got angry turned
up at my Business office pounded on the door calling me a thief using other
profanities I gave back the $20.00 to the child went back inside my office she
came back pounding on the door cursing and making threats I asked her to leave
she refused as she wanted another $20.00 on the one I took from child.

This went on for a few minutes I went back inside closed the door she then
started knocking on the bathroom window as if to break the window I then said
to her I am going to call the Police she said go ahead I'll tell the Police
that you stole the money from my son, I didn't want to call the Police as my
son was there so I opened the door asked her again to leave she then said I
must get you some how I am going to call all your creditors and tell them how
to find you, we then got into a heated argument me calling her names she
calling me names, she then said I must kill you some how! immediately she
rushed off to her vehicle

seeing that I instantly bend down picked up a stone about the size of a can of
tuna fish held it in my hand as a means of defending myself in an effort to
ward her off thinking she was about to get a weapon as she attacked me before
with knife and scissors, she opened her car door bend over but didn't not come
up with anything in her hands so I dropped the stone.

My wife went to the North Dade Justice Center filed an injunction against me by
given false information as to what took place and where it took place the Judge
granted a temporary injunction pending hearing, at the hearing I explained to
the Honorable Judge Myriam Lehr what happened and where it happened including
her constant harassment and provocation at my home and Office, the Judge asked
her did you go to this man's place? she couldn't answer the Judge said answer
me yes or no she said well your Honor yes, the Judge then asked her are you
afraid of him she said yes! the Judge asked her then if you are afraid of this
man why do you keep going to his place bothering him? The Judge then dismissed
the case and ordered her not to return to my place. Case # 02-013348-FC-04
heard 5/14/02 North Dade Justice center.

My estranged wife wasn't pleased so she skipped North Dade Justice center for
fear of the case going back to the same Judge added and subtracted from the
facts now she claim I am coming to her place bothering her and that I am trying
to take my son out of school with out her consent, she then got herself
another temporary restraining order at the hearing she turned up with an
Attorney provided by the legal Aid society

That case was also later dismissed as all the Judges realized that it was she
who is the aggressor one of the Judges even advised me to get an injunction on
her.

Five months after the incident a Detective by the name of Shannon Walton along
with another female officer called and said they needed to talk to me regarding
an incident between me and my estranged wife I told them where I could be
found, they came read me my rights was very cordial respectful and seemed to be
seeking the truth I was then asked if I wanted to say what took place I said
yes, she then questioned me I told them what took place as much as I could
recall the officers wrote down all that I said Officer Walton then turned on a
small tape recorder then asked me to repeat what happened I did, after
listening to what I had to say Officer Walton and her partner went outside
conferred with each other came back then said she is not here to arrest
innocent people as she is the one causing the problems by turning up at your
place.

During this time and before my son kept complaining of violent beatings at the
hands of his Mother and older sister, I spoke to her I even gone as far as to
solicit the intervention of her Church Pastor and other church members that
still did not help I had no choice than to let it be knowing to the Court as
she initiated a stay away order on me in an effort for me not to see child as
the child would complain to me about the abuse.

I notified the DCF as there were belt marks and other physical marks on child
he was also complaining of getting hit in his face and back of head by two
instructors at a Private Military Christian school his Mother enrolled him in
without my knowledge the DCF dismissed the report as unfounded, the matter was
taken to Court the Judge subpoenaed the DCF the DCF did not complied insisted
they sent two reports made prior to incident with a aim to mislead the Court
and to place the blame on me, the Judge was not satisfied with what the DCF
sent so she ordered that the child be brought to court so she could question
him her self, the child was brought to court the Judge saw the marks and was
told by child that his Mother is beating him even when he is in the right and
that he got hit in the face and back of head by instructors at school, the
Judge ordered that child should not return to that abusive institution and that
he should remain in Park Way Middle School the school I transferred child to.

I then motioned for a re-hearing as I found out that the DCF printed another
updated report a day after the court made it's findings had it placed in the
Court's file in an effort to cover their wrong doings, the case was set for a
rehearing on 1/2/03 on December 20th I heard that Detective Walton was looking
for me I instantly called her she said she needs to see me in her Office I knew
that very moment that she was going to arrest me as my son did say to me daddy
one of the instructors at the school is also a Police officer, I went to
Detective Walton's office as I reached there she said to me, why are you trying
to take the child from his Mother? Why you took child out of school Mother
placed him in? she also said I have read the DCF report.

Officer Walton then charged me with Aggravated Assault, Burglary/Vehicle with
Battery and simple Battery

Charge that had me in Jail for almost three months without bail, to make
matters worst officer Walton turned up at my bond Hearing/Arthur Hearing with a
video tape that was made using my very own son saying that I abused him and
that I have a gun and is going to kill his Mother, Thank God the public
defender noticed irregularities with the video tape of which he brought to the
attention of the Judge I also insisted that I be allowed to explain what
happened, after my explanation the Honorable Judge Hague expressed his disfavor
with the person who did the interview he was also upset with the claim of child
abuse, he then ruled in my favor Presumption not great then granted bond in
the amount $10,000 with monitoring device.

After bail was granted I felt so good believing that I was out now so I could
prove my innocence, my problem had just started the bonds man came to get me
out but was not able to as some one within the system wrote no bond even though
bond was granted I had to re-appear in Court that took another two weeks at
the hearing no one could say why I was not able to bond out, the Honorable
Judge J. Bagley ordered that I be allowed to bond out.

After my release from jail my son told me all that he was told to say including
the abuse and violence he is still undergoing, the Police was called the DCF
was notified and believe it or not the child is still in the care of the Mother
as no one believes they all think that I am doing it so as to get custody of
child and to get back at Mother.

I intend to place the Offence incident report the Complaint/Arrest Affidavit
her sworn statements given in seeking the injunctions for all to see what
wickedness has being done to me, and it all caused from a woman who is unable
to control her violent temper an a system that is giving no protection against
men who are abused by women.

I will also provide my police report on the very day the confrontation took
place.

These will without a doubt show that I was arrested and charged in an effort to
silence me and that the reports made by my estranged wife contain fabricated
and malicious lies.

In closing I want to make it clear to all that I do believe if a man or woman
puts his or her hands on another individual in a violent way as to cause arm or
in any offensive manner that person should be dealt with in a strict manner
according to the laws of the land, I also believe that no one should be allowed
to harass, provoke, stalk, threatened another person then claim Domestic
violence when that person is the culprit.

Since I contacted the Police and the Police alerted the DCF I have not seeing
my child I called his aunt's home and was told that he is not suppose to talk
to me, there is no court order saying that, yet she refuses to allow me to see
him that is how controlling she is, the child is still under the abusive
control of his Mother and her co-conspirator and I am helpless as no one will
believe me.

My prayer and wish is that someone out there will read this my experience and
offer help so that my child and others will get the attention and care that all
children deserve with out violence, and that men will be treated equally under
the Law as relates to Domestic Violence.

Selvin Ferril

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