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Bitter/Sweet….The Hidden Feminist Agenda 

I was talking to a long time friend from Texas yesterday and some how the subject turned to the best way to catch flies. Marge told me of a school project based on the adage: "A spoonful of honey will catch more flies than a gallon of vinegar" by Benjamin Franklin. 

They put it to the test and baked cookies. One batch had honey, the other used vinegar but no sweeteners. They found that the flies there at least liked the vinegar cookies better. This got me to
thinking. (that may explain the higher temperature in the Midwest yesterday)

I thought about what John the Apostle said in Revelation 10:9-11 

"And I went unto the angel, and said unto him, Give me the little book. And he said unto me, Take it, and eat it up; and it shall make  thy belly bitter, but it shall be in thy mouth sweet as honey. And I took the little book out of the angel's hand, and ate it up; and it was in my mouth sweet as honey: and as soon as I had eaten it, my belly was bitter."

I then started thinking about how we are seeing this very thing take place in our society today. I do not like what I am seeing.

Solomon said: "there is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the  end thereof are the ways of death". (Proverbs 14:12)

Many of our recent laws are bitter/sweet. They look good on paper but  in reality they are destroying society. I will explain about some of these most destructive laws shortly but I do believe there is one major reason for these destructive laws. I contend that one of the most destructive forces to society is the feminist movement! Oh, I agree that there were legitimate complaints but radical feminist have long since hijacked this type of feminist. One has only to look at the NOW website to see a war not only on fathers as was shown in "Breaking the Silence" but a war on men in general. They declare they want equal rights for women…not simply equal rights. Actually however, if you are a married woman you do not qualify for these equal rights and most certainly not if you want to be a stay at home mom.

You can also see the misandry from NOW in that they often have parades demanding society to "stop violence to women" Why not stop violence period? In this regard, the feminist movement with NOW at the helm pushed through the Violence Against Women Act by misuse of statistics and outright lies by using junk research. 


Gathering Statistics by Charles E. Corry, Ph.D. reveals this junk research used by the gender feminist.

It is the feminist junk research that pushed the Violence Against Women Act though Congress not once but three times. Each time, only  the gender feminist were allowed to sit at the table to discuss what  it should contain. Not one person from the opposing side was allowed 
although real unbiased research shows men are abused as often as are women. Folks, this would be tantamount to having a Racial relations policy written but only inviting the KKK to help write it. 

We have much more evidence that the feminist movement is destroying society. Again, it sounds good but it is sweet in the mouth and bitter in the belly. 

The VAWA sounds is sweet in the mouth but it rapidly turns bitter in the belly. It allows women to become abusers without one ounce of accountability and it prevents the relatively few women who finally do realize they are abusive from  seeking help. After all, ladies, if you were told that only men are abusers all of your life, would you seek help if you even did realize 
you were an abuser? Would you not think you were a freak? If we  informed society of the truth, I do contend that more men and women would seek help. 

The VAWA also turns bitter upon reaching the belly in that it destroys homes by encouraging divorce at the first sign of trouble. It does not seek to resolve conflict, it seeks to place blame and 
then only on the man. The VAWA violates scripture in that they  say "never ask why" Scripture ME oh Lord, not search my husband or search my wife. Most conflict between two adults depends upon at least two people to keep it going. Seldom is it all one persons fault. There is a list of Internet links at the bottom of  this message that will lead to pages that will explain in detail why the VAWA is destroying families. 

Feminist have proclaimed that it is a MAN'S WORLD. They state that men only want custody of their children after a divorce to be able to abuse his ex and the children, that men do not care about
children. Many of our laws were pushed through by feminist claiming it was for the good of the children! I contend that we can get a good idea of what is important to society
by looking up what is "GOOGLED"

Angry Harry looked up "men's rights, Women's rights and Children's rights on Google on June 5, 2005 and found these results"


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I ask…whose rights appear to be most important to society? Does  it appear we have our children's interest foremost in our minds?

Carey Roberts in "Hillary's Gender War" confirms this when he said: 

Marie Wilson wrote a book called Closing the Leadership Gap in which she wrote (somewhat ungrammatically) that the United States "has been steered by male leadership who tend to lead from a self-centered, self-preservation perspective," whereas, "Women...are inclined to lead, their families and nations,

Hillary Rodham Clinton soon picked up on that theme and began to  brag that female officials are more truthful than their male counterparts.  At the 2005 Women's Global Leadership Summit, Clinton  claimed that "Research shows the presence of women raises the standards of ethical behavior and lowers corruption."

Hillary must have forgotten: insider cattle-future deals, denials of the Madison Guaranty retainer, White House travel office firings, and many, many more. and she sure was not honest when she told us she was named after Edmund Hillary's mountaineering feats which occurred in 1953 although Hillary was born in 1947. (Maybe she was nameless for six years?)

While we are talking about women being more ethical than men,  ask Speaker of the house Nancy Pelosi about that fishy minimum wage deal she finagled with Star-Kist Tuna a couple weeks ago.

Mr. Roberts went on to say: 
Marie Wilson's claim that female leaders are "other-centered"?

Say what you want about men and women at home. But my first-hand observation of elected officials leans to the opposite of Wilson's stereotype.

Elect a man to office and the first thing he does is pass a law that benefits women. Blame it on the patriarchy, chivalry, or political savvy — I don't know, but that's what happens. Yes, men are so predictable.

Take Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid, and welfare programs — all were passed by largely male legislators, all are paid for mostly by male taxpayers, and all have a majority of female beneficiaries.

Now let's look at the record of female elected officials —  sorry, folks, this won't be pretty.

Can you think of a single Congresswoman who has pushed for funding  to help boys who are falling behind in school? Can you name a law for prostate cancer research that was spearheaded by a woman? (For the record, it was Sen. Ted Kennedy who first seized on the idea of championing breast cancer research.) Can you wise me up to a single female-sponsored resolution that sympathized with the injustice of loving dads who are barred from seeing their kids?

Most of all, MS Clinton's Misandry was revealed when she talked about her ability to deal with Osama bin Laden by saying "And what in my background equips me to deal with evil and bad men?" I contend that in effect, she was also demonizing all men but even if not, I ask what man would get away with making a broad statement like that about woman?

Does Hillary or any gender feminist care about dads? Perhaps we need to ask John Murtari who recently spent 6 months in prison. His crime? He wanted to talk to his senator about his right to be a dad to his child. Ms Clinton refused. Why should she?  She thinks "It takes a village, not a loving mom and dad.  You can learn about it on John's website  http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ 

Still not convinced that the gender feminist movement is perhaps the most destructive thing to society? Isaiah said in Isaiah 5:20 Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!

Since when is the breakup and destruction of marriage good?  

"Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that  the women's movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage." (radial feminist leader Sheila Cronan).

"Being a housewife is an illegitimate profession... The choice to serve and be protected and plan towards being a family-maker is a choice that shouldn't be. The heart of radical feminism is to change that." (Vivian Gornick, feminist author, University of Illinois, "The Daily Illini," April
25, 1981. 

Could it be that marriage was first instituted by GOD in the Garden of Eden when he told Adam to cleave or hang on to his wife Eve? Actually, the family is the first basic form of government. 

This also indicates to me that there is a much more sinister reason  for the family breakdown. We will get to this shortly.  Could you tell me if the breakup of the family is good? Feminist call 
it good!

"In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them." (Dr. Mary Jo Bane, feminist and  assistant professor of education at Wellesley College and associate  director of the school's Center for Research on Woman).

Then we can go back to the statement that women think of others first.  For feminist it certainly is not our children:

The most merciful thing a large family can do to one of its infant members is to kill it." (Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood, in "Women and the New Rage," p.67.

This does not indicate they care about the welfare of either women in general or children either:

"Marriage has existed for the benefit of men; and has been a legally sanctioned method of control over women... We must work to  destroy it. The end of the institution of marriage is a necessary condition  for the liberation of women. Therefore it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually  with men... All of history must be re-written in terms of oppression  of women. We must go back to ancient female religions like  witchcraft." (from "The Declaration of Feminism," November 1971).

You see, according to unbiased research, the safest place for women and children is in an intact home with both biological parents…under the protection of marriage! It would seem that everyone is at much greater risk when they are…shacking up! There is a great benefit to men, women and children when a commitment to "love and to hold" is made in the form of marriage. This is best done when both men and women fully understand Gods plan for marriage. I have written about 
the idea commitment for marriage in "Marriage, His Duties, Her Duties  located here: 

We can also see a bitter/sweet plan in the overthrow of the "patriarch" as is the goal of radical feminist.

"Overthrowing capitalism is too small for us. We must overthrow the whole... patriarch!" (Gloria Steinhem, radical feminist leader, editor of 'MS' magazine).

Actually, this is not only the goal of radical feminist. It is also the goal of so called Christian feminist which is in and of itself an oxymoron.

I contend that one can no more be a Christian feminist then one can be  a Christian racist. You see, a Christian feminist has to overcome  several major problems that GOD has ordained. God created Adam and  then HE created Eve to be a help met for Adam. I am an RN and I have nursing assistants that help me. The key word…they help me .but they  are not less a person then I nor am I a superior person to them. My  ROLE as an RN may be but the person is not. Feminist can not  understand the concept of authority. If we are stopped by a police officer, we need to obey the lawful orders of that person but that  does not make them superior.

Christian feminist also have to deny the infallibility of God's  word the Bible. I have heard many of them say that the Apostle Paul was a male chauvinist pig so what he wrote about gender roles is not important. One problem, if we throw that out, then others can throw out parts they do not like but in reality, GOD was very careful in what HE inspired down to the last "." or the last cross of a "t".

If we start to say we do not accept one part because of whatever  reason, then the whole Bible is immediately rendered null and void.  My friend, this would include salvation by the Grace and Mercy of God  too. I sure do not want to lose that! 

We see more bitter/sweet problems with another statement gender  feminist make: 

"Let's forget about the mythical Jesus and look for   encouragement,solace and inspiration from real women... Two thousand years of patriarchal rule under the shadow of the cross ought to be enough to turn women toward the feminist 'salvation' of this world." (Annie Laurie Gaylor, "Feminist Salvation," "The Humanist", July/August  1988, p.37. which goes along with 

"By the year 2000 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential, not God." 
(Gloria Steinhem, editor of 'MS' magazine.

It would therefore appear that gender feminist despise the Cross of Jesus Christ. The very cross upon which our salvation, and theirs too if they chose to accept it was purchased at great price to GOD  Little do they realize or at least do the want to accept is that by  subjecting themselves to a man...Jesus Christ, they can be made free  indeed. Of course, they are not the only ones that need to realize  the freedom this will bring...we all need to. I mentioned that I believe there is a far more sinister reason for  all of these bitter/sweet laws, laws that appear good but when placed in effect destroys the very thing we are told they are to protect. Many of these laws are designed to break up families. Child protective Services does this very well. One need only ask Jon and  Julie about this. They have had ten children literally stolen from them by "Child Protective Services" in Indiana. It would appear that those that work for CPS are not accountable to anyone. Neither Julie nor Jon were ever abusive to any of their children. They are strong God fearing genuine Christians. Julie was told that if she made her husband get out of the home, she may be able to get the kids back. This actually shows the real agenda for most CPS 
remove dads from the homes in spite of solid proof from many studies that show the damage to society that fatherless homes cause.'s%20Prayer.htm

Children from fatherless homes account for: 

63% of youth suicides. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services, Bureau of the Census). 
71% of pregnant teenagers. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services) 
90% of all homeless and runaway children. 
70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (DOJ, Special Report) 
85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders. (Source:Center for Disease Control). 
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger. (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26). 
71% of all high school dropouts. (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools). 
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers. (Source:  Rainbows for all God`s Children). 
(Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 

85% of all youths sitting in prisons. 

In spite of this our family courts, often upon the insistence of CPS will remove the father and make him a visitor The irony is this is  suppose to be for the "good of the children yet 65% of all child  abuse is by the mother but the father gets custody in about 10% of  all contested cases. Does this not sound like it fits this profile...sweet in the mouth but bitter in the belly? 

The sinister part....I contend that the removal of dads is deliberate. We can also notice a few other things too. In this bitter/sweet agenda, we find the removal of all weapons from fathers without any due process of law by demanding they be turned in when a  restraining order is filed against him and don't take much to get one of those pieces of paper. All a women need do is say...I  am afraid and she's got one. 

Getting the picture? Let me clarify it a bit more. Fathers have throughout time fought to protect their families...their wife and kids. Think of Brave Heart and the Patriot to get a good picture of  this. Now think of the founding fathers of the United States when in their wisdom they included the right to bear arms, not for each man to protect himself from foreign invaders, but to protect his family from our own government, the same government we have today that has tried to pass strict gun controls but have been "shot down" by the National Rifle Association or the NRA. Now comes along these domestic violence laws which although it has always been a crime to assault  someone is now classified a "civil" matter and thus much less due process of law is needed to take away Constitutional rights such as we see in the right to bear arms and that we should not lose any liberties without due process of law 

Folks, hundreds of thousands of men have lost these rights without any due process. I can only think of one reason for this. The Bible  tells of one world dictator that will soon be coming. To set the  stage for this, this person will need to assure full compliance with little or no resistance as possible. Remove a loving father and husband from their home, and most will have lost their will to fight. Coupled with the fact that most of the guns have now been removed, he has little to fight with if he does chose to fight. Result, our liberties...our freedom will have been removed by the very laws that seemed so sweet in our mouth...but now that it is in our will have destroyed the same society that we were told it was protecting! 

My friend, this is Biblical prophecy. It is as good as history but there is one hope. 2 Corinthians 3:17Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 

Couple this with the fact that our children get their view of what God is like from....their fathers. Now we have a very distant father who they seldom see and ....we also have a new generation of people who see GOD as being so distant HE can not care about us as an individual. Nothing can be further from the truth because GOD is as close as we want Him to be. In fact, HE wants such a close relationship with EACH one of us that we can each call Him....DADDY 

You can establish this close relationship right now in only a few moments....this is how: 

Many people know ABOUT God but to have a relationship with Him, we have to KNOW Him. What is the difference? Knowing about God can include us being aware of all the facts concerning Him. Many people think that knowing that Jesus Christ died for our sin is all that is needed for salvation. It is NOT! In order to have salvation that is to have eternal life there are a few basic steps we need to follow. This is so important I want to go over them,

1: We need to realize we have sinned. Romans 3:23 For all have sinned and come short of the Glory of God This means we have failed to met the goal of being perfect in order to enter heaven. Few of us would question this. 

2: The penalty for the sin that we are guilty of is death. Romans 6:23 tells us The wages of sin is death. (Death is separation. When our body dies, our soul is separated from our body. Eternal death is when we die without doing what is being explained here and then our spirit is separated from God for eternity. 

Since the only price we can pay for our own sin is to be separated from God forever, it stands to reason that there is no way we can pay for our sin ourselves. We thus come to the 2nd part of Romans 6:23: but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the Lord. 

3: 2nd Corinthians 5:21 informs us: For he hath made him, who knew no sin, to be sin for us, that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. Jesus Christ, God's only Son became sin for us so that we can be freed from the penalty of sin. What then do we need to do? 

4: For GOD so loved the world that HE gave His only begotten Son that whosoever (read YOUR name here) believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Please note the ONLY condition given is that we believe in Jesus Christ for full payment for our sin. 

5: Many times our own past activities or the activities of our ancestors may be a basis for demonic problems based on Exodus 20:5. It is important therefore to Renounce the sins of our ancestors. 

Now if we only learn these facts, even though we may understand that they are true and believe them. that is only knowing ABOUT GOD. How do we KNOW HIM then? It is APPLYING that payment to our account. 

This would be like having a check to pay a bill and putting the check on a desk. The bill does not get paid because the check was never APPLIED to your account. Once we know and believe the facts pointed out above, the next step is to TALK to God much as you and I would and admit that we have fallen short of what He wants. We recognize that we deserve to be separated from a Holy God. We then tell Him that we know that He has provided a payment for all our sin and this payment was Jesus Christ when He died on a cross. It is at this time we ask God to APPLY THIS PAYMENT TO OUR ACCOUNT. 

We ask God to credit as PAYMENT IN FULL for all our sin the price Jesus paid for us. It is this step that gives us eternal life. If we do all but this step, we know about God. When we do this step, we will KNOW God and we will have eternal life. Following is a model of a prayer to trust Christ. 

Lord God, I now realize I am a sinner. I realize I have fallen short of the goal You have set forth for eternal life and I now repent of this sin. I also understand that according to Your Word, the Bible, that Your Son, Jesus Christ as paid the debt for me and I am now asking You to credit the payment Jesus made on the cross to my sin. Lord God, I also renounce any sin on the part of my ancestors that may have been invitations to curses or demonic activity. Lord God I also now understand that You have now given me eternal life and I thank You for that fact. Amen. 

My friend, if you have prayed this prayer...please contact us so we can get you started on a new life of freedom found only in Jesus Christ. 

Pastor Kenneth Deemer
Director Shattered Men

P.O. BOX 166
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