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Men 

The hidden half of domestic violence

How to have eternal life

• Lost their jobs, homes, and professional licenses.

• Are now destitute and often living on the streets, in their car, with relatives, or in friends homes.

• Called the police because she attacked him, usually with a weapon, and the police came and arrested him, or made no arrest at all. For revenge, she then commonly called the police and claimed he attacked her, and the police then arrested him. To add credence to her claim she will commonly scratch or bruise herself, or break things in the home before the police arrive.

• Called the police because she was abusing the children and, when he tried to protect the little ones, she attacked him. When the police were called they arrested him and the courts subsequently gave her full custody of the children she is abusing.

• Found evidence his wife was having an affair. She then charged him with domestic violence or got a restraining order to cover her adultery. By doing so she got possession of the kids, the house, the car, the checking account, and everything else he owned. For married men this is the largest single grouping with about 40% of married men we hear about falling in this category. More than half the men we've heard from, or about, are married or he is living with her (common law).

• Found he is being stalked by a former wife or girlfriend who is using the legal system to harass him with DV charges and restraining orders in addition to the phone calls, vandalism, visitation games, etc., she is playing. Often when she finds him she uses her cell phone to call police and claim he has violated the restraining order and has him arrested. A variation on this are vindictive girlfriends who get a restraining order that keeps a man from his own home or apartment, which she then often trashes or steals everything from.

• Have lost all contact with any children they had for months and years. Commonly they were arrested or harassed if they've tried to contact their children.

• Found she has an uncontrollable substance abuse problem, a mental disorder, or both, and is using the legal system, victim's advocates, and women's shelters to harass and charge him with everything short of the rape of the Sabine women (though I think some men even get charged with that). It appears that the crazier a woman is the better "victim" she makes for the DV industry.

• Found that their military or police service is used against them in court. The Redfem mantra is that such men are "trained killers." Such ad hominem attacks seem to be most common against men who have served in the elite branches of the military, e.g., Marines, Seals, Special Forces (Green Berets), and Rangers.

• Have spent from three months to ten years or more in jail though they had no police record prior to meeting this woman and very often there is no evidence of violence whatsoever.

• Are suffering from one or more symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), virtually without exception. Sleeplessness, paranoia, nervousness, impotence, physical or mental breakdowns, etc., are so common we hardly even ask about them, and simply take them as a given. Many men were, or have become physically disabled by the abuse and false allegations against them.

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The good men may do separately is small compared with what they may do collectively.

Benjamin Franklin

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